A girl took to Facebook after some boys made indecent remarks at her for wearing jeans. However, two days later another girl and a boy has this message to the same girl wearing jeans and the eve-teasers.
Ummi Salma | Azhar Imtiyaz
“This eve teasing by boys has become a menace these days. I condemn with my full heart the said act by boys because in Islam it is fully prohibited for a male even to look at a woman, keeping aside commenting on her dress. Indeed the Quran says, “Tell the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts.
One of the major poisons of the heart is the unrestrained glance towards the opposite sex. This result in the one who looks becoming attracted to what he sees, and in the imprinting of an image of what he sees in his heart. This can result in several kinds of corruption in the heart of the servant. Allah (SWT) commands:
“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and protect their private parts. This is more purer for them. Indeed Allah is well aware of what they do.” [aN-Nur: 30]
So there is no point of defending the action of the said boys. But at the same time being Muslims, we have to see the importance of hijab for women also. Being modern does not give us authority of choosing whatever we want. We should be dressed as per our Islamic code of dressing and it is necessary if we call ourselves Muslims. The dress prescribed for us is to cover our whole body with the clothing from head to toe (though some scholars say face and hands are exempted), and the said dress should be loose not fit to the body and it should not be transparent through which body would b visible. In addition to that we all know how women are prohibited by imitating males in dressing sense and vice versa. Feeling proud for wearing jeans and then defending the same you are insulting our religion.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the man who wears women’s clothing and the woman who wears men’s clothing. Narrated by Abu Dawood (4098) and classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in al-Majmoo’ (4/469) and by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. Also Almighty Allah said to beloved Prophet (PBUH): “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Ahzaab 33:59]
So being a Muslim girl you can’t say you were right by wearing jeans and whatsoever of the sort.
Some people argue that Allah sees intentions not our outlooks. It means we can do whatever we like keeping Allah’s orders aside and then saying we are among the believers. It is a totally baseless statement. Take for instance our schools, where we are given proper set of rules for being a student of that particular school. Now if some students do not follow any of the rules; e.g, they come at any time they like, they do not wear proper uniform, they do not follow the syllabus prescribed by the school administration. For how much time will they be allowed to enter school like this? Obviously if they continue to behave like this, they will be shortly discharged from the school.
Same applies to our religion, if we do not follow it, we do not qualify to be called Muslims but our religion is not so tough to put us entirely out of it. It continues to give us time to change ourselves until death, and then we have to face the wrath in the next life. If we believe even a bit in the life after death, then we will surely not do what our God has forbidden us from.
Now coming to the point where you say we are forced to be dual faced because here girls do not get favorable environment for wearing anything they choose to. It is really shameful of you to even make such a comment. Do you want to say women here wear hijab and other dresses which are common because of fear of people! Quite unfortunate of you to say such a thing because by your statement you are painting all women with the same brush of hypocrisy.
How can you defend those who maintain hijab in Kashmir and then become all shameless when outside. It is only because of such acts parents hesitate in sending their girls outside. Moreover it has proven a black mark on the character of all Kashmiri girls. Leaving aside our own people even outsiders are making mockery of us for all this. Don’t think these outsiders start respecting you more when you copy their style; rather they make fun of our culture as well as our religion. They think that Islam makes them oppressed, rather than thinking that is our mindset which lacks belief.
Coming to the most important part of my article, by your post, you have made mockery of our religion. It is only this thing which made me to reply you back. I cannot keep watching while people can go to any extent in harming our religion. I feel very pained to see that you view ‘being covered’ equal to ‘being caged’. It is for our own good that Islam has put all those restrictions. You spoke of freedom in Indian states for their dresses but you forget how many cases of rape, molestation come to fore in the same India. Now compare these figures to the country where Islamic dress code is common. You will see negligible cases of all this.
“Let me tell you my own experience as I cover myself fully from head to toe, barring my eyes. I feel too proud to say that I feel so blessed. Firstly it gives such tranquility and peace which is hard to express in words. It can just be felt within. And coming to the reaction i get from people, I feel so much respected and honored everywhere (barring very few incidents which happen occasionally). It gives pleasure to see people offering you seat in buses, boys lowering their eyes on seeing a fully covered woman and many such incidents”: said Ummi Salma (a sister in Islam)
In the end I just want to say start respecting your religion, people will start respecting you. It is not about freedom of women and all that fuss created by Islam-phobic media all over the world. It is all about our belief on the teachings of our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) who taught us how to live our life. Keeping all things aside just think how can we face him on the day of resurrection when Allah will show our deeds to him? I don’t say that I myself am worth to be presented in front of him. I
I am too sinful a person but at least one can be assured to make our Prophet (peace be upon him) a bit happy when it’ll come to dressing. May Allah guide me as well as all my Muslim Brothers and Sisters?”
By Ummi Salma (an M.Tech Student) & Azhar Imtiyaz (an M. Pharma Student). The authors can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org for feedback.